Friday, October 28, 2011

Two Post Day!

My previous post was a learning lesson for me, so this post is fun, because it's Friday!!! And Fridays are always fun! I love them!

There is this awesome song by Jamie Grace (who I think is beautiful and has cool red boots) featuring Toby Mac. In fact, I believe he helped her produce this song. Here it is:




Enjoy! You'll find yourself snapping your fingers and tapping your foot.....see I told you....there you go now....*snap* *snap* *tap**tap**tap*....oh yeah! Lord, I love the way you hold me.....whoa oh oh oh...

Love is...saying you're sorry

Sometimes I feel like an awesome mother. I'm taking life by the reigns and driving my wild horses. And I'm winning. Other times, well, I don't feel so awesome. I wonder where I've gone wrong. This very morning was one of those moments.

I love and enjoy every stage of development; the infant, the toddler, the child and now the pre-teen. However, I do not always know how to respond. Yes, I read my bible for direction, I pray, I seek godly counsel and yet, there are still moments where I feel like things are amiss. Now, I do not tell my kids this, I let them believe I've got it under control. But folks, I'll be transparent, I do not always have it "under control."

Like every morning in my house, we are up early. My kids have to be in class by 8 am. Well, this past week, one of my children had to be to school at 7:30 because they missed a test. Unfortunately, a few of the days they were too late, and one of the days the teacher had a meeting we didn't know about. So finally, this morning, we made it! Prior to getting to the school, however, an enormous argument took place. This *child* decided to argue with EVERYTHING I said. Whether it was true or not, they argued. If I said the sky was gray, they would argue that there was a patch of blue. SIGH! And being in an awful hurry to get out the door, I let their comments get the best of me. My response was not horrible but I could have been more kind and had a more thoughtful approach. This only catapulted the argument to the point where *child* was not going to get out of the car at school.

They did finally get out, but this whole scene made me feel worse. So, I went and parked the car, got the others to their classes and marched right up to this said child's class, hugged them and told them sorry. Thankfully, I have taught them well, because they responded with an apology. It was only *child* and teacher in the class but I wouldn't have cared if the class was full.

Now you are probably thinking, why in the world did you apologize? Because I am the adult and the example. I love my child and want to teach them how to say "I'm sorry" even when they are not the only one at fault. They will have a consequence but now they will see their inappropriate actions and behaviors through eyes of forgiveness instead of anger. The wall they built up in those moments of anger are down, and we can get to the heart of the matter. I will never be too old or stubborn to say "I'm sorry" because that is what love does.

Thursday, October 27, 2011

R.E.S.P.E.C.T.

"Just a little bit"...NO! A lot of it! That is what it takes, according to recent studies, for a marriage to be successful. So, are the researchers just figuring this out? Hmmm...I believe if they would read their BIBLE, they would have discovered this a LOOONNNGGG time ago!

No, I'm not on a rampage, and I have great respect for research. But I am currently working on a paper for my Speech/Communication class regarding "Divorce in America." And I tell ya, it's depressing! Honestly, divorce is not something I think about. I remember being told as a newlywed not to ever mention the "D" word. So, when working on this assignment it almost made me feel as if I was doing something wrong. Crazy, I know! But that was how I felt.

Divorce is not a new thing. In fact, it has been going on for years. However, what surprised me was the fact that researchers, therapists and counselors have decided that RESPECT is the most important factor in a marriage. Respect for your spouse will outlive the money woes and children concerns.

The reason this surprised me was not because it was a new idea, but rather a very old idea, given to us by God. Leviticus 19: 18 tells us to, "...love thy neighbor as thyself..." and in Matthew 7:12 we read, Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets. Your spouse is your neighbor!

Now, as for my kids, I have to reiterate to them that this scripture does not mean, if someone treats you terrible then that must be the way in which they wish to be treated. We must treat others the way we want them to treat us. With respect. As my mother would say, respect is earned. You give it, you receive it. 





 

Tuesday, October 25, 2011

The Last Year of the Single Digits

Today is my Elle Belle's 9th birthday. Physically, she looks like a six year old, but don't let her smallness fool you, mentally, she's 16!

For those of us who know the "real" Elle, she is a joy! She is careful to preserve herself for those closest to her. However, if she loves you, she will love you for life!

Elle is an avid reader, loves to write and aspires to one day write a book. She loves music, has played the piano but is moving on to the violin. She has an appreciation for art and enjoys various forms of art, especially theatrics. 



Elle and HER Papa!


We LOVE Elle! 

 2011
What is so special about this little princess is, she was born on our 6th wedding anniversary. Couldn't ask for a better gift! So there you have it! Today is also our anniversary :). (you can do the math, if you can't figure it out, ask your kids).

Friday, October 21, 2011

Tid Bits, Ramblings, Etc.

As I mentioned in a previous post, we spent last weekend at my parents. On Sunday, we went to church with them and I got my baby fix. See, I love babies! I love to kiss them, cuddle with them, spoil them and then return them to their rightful owner. Having done my share of populating, I am very happy to borrow! Well, this last Sunday I had the privilege of holding Mr. Levi Bigelow, for quite some time. Not only is he simply adorable, sweet, smiles continually but he also shares his name with my oldest son. I think that is so cool! Here is a picture of the two Levis: 
Sorry my phone doesn't take the greatest pics


Last night I decided to take my kids to the mall. I wanted to go to a few places and in return I told them they could choose a few stores.The boys' list included: Vans, Zumiez and H&M. I was good with that. Naturally, the girls wanted to go to Build-a-Bear. I managed. While there, promoting the new Snoopy friend, the kids were given dog ears. Myles, Elle and Ashley decided they would wear them for the remainder of the evening. This included: Macy's, H&M, Claire's, Target and Costco. Cute, you say? No, not really, but at least I wasn't wearing them. Here is Myles and Elle rocking the dog ears, I think you can see Ashley trying to get in the picture from the back seat:

Anyhow, moving along. I always tell myself to go to bed before I hit delirium. Do I listen? Nope! In this last week, here are a few things I have done when I was so tired I couldn't think. 
  • Setting up my coffee for the next morning, I started it and went to bed. Next morning, I pushed the button and realized there was already coffee in the pot...from the previous night! Yuck!
  • I may or may not have brushed my teeth with someone else' toothbrush. Didn't stop to ask whose it was, just chucked it.
  • Instead of putting Myles' homework in his homework folder, I took it out. Ronnie so sweetly took it to him at school. 
  • Forgot I volunteered at the kids' school, until Ashley reminded me. She's 6! 
  • There's more I'm sure, I'm just too tired to think!
Have a nice weekend, everyone! Updates coming the beginning of the week. We're having a wedding this weekend! 





Wednesday, October 19, 2011

Fir Point Farms

Today was Ashley's first official field trip! Not only that, she rode the bus for the first time! Of course, I joined her, wishing later that I would have drove. However, I made the best of it and did not tell her that the bus was SO stuffy and stinky, that I was on the verge of loosing my breakfast.
We went to this great farm in a town called Aurora, named Fir Point Farms. In addition to pumpkins, they have apples, corn, live stock and wonderful places for the kids to play. They have this cool little building in which the kids can climb into and play in hazelnuts. And did you know that Noah's Ark landed in Aurora, Or.? Well, a miniature version a least.

 We went through a corn maze, drank fresh apple cider (delish!), held chicks, petted a calf, a goat and tried to pet a sheep. We also got to see three of the cutest piglets ever! Made me want to go read Charlotte's Web!



 Each child and parent chaperon picked a pumpkin to take home. Within about five minutes, Ashley found hers. A lover of ALL things tiny, here was her pick:
 We watched the lady made cider (how they used to make it) with a cider press. She told us that it takes 820 apples to make one gallon of apple cider! Now that is a TON of apples!
Of course, I had to buy some for the others back home :). Unfortunately, when I went into the store, they had so many other yummy things like pumpkin and apple cider donuts! (Not together). I couldn't decide which would be better so I bought both.
The day would not be complete without a picture with mom:
 I sure love spending time with my littlest turkey!

Tuesday, October 18, 2011

Home is Where Your Heart Is!

Please forgive my unfaithfulness to my blog this past week. I have tried to be diligent in updating but this last week seemed to run away from me. Between my family, my school work, preparing for the Christmas musical and just simply life, we took a weekend trip to my parents.

The reason for this spontaneous adventure is due to the fact that they are moving from this dear, old house. I will not get emotional but I do want to say a few things regarding this house:



Yes, it is a restored barn! This little (3500 sq.ft) house, or rather "Grammy's Barnhouse", as Levi so sweetly termed it at 2 years old, has been the center of many, many family affairs for about 10 years. Thanksgiving after Thanksgiving, Christmas after Christmas, any holiday we family members could think of as an excuse to escape away to the barn in the woods! Some family members even lived there for a time. Not only family, but my parents' former Pastor, wife and family stayed there for a time. And oh what a time it was! The memories packed into this house are endless. But I will restrain myself because I said I would not get emotional! 

As for my little family, it is a bittersweet occasion. We are happy that my parents are moving into a house that is complete (as in no construction or destruction needs to happen) and less stressful for them. This "barnhouse" has literally been in construction (and often destruction) mode ever since they moved in. It seemed like as soon as one wave of construction ended, another one began. The changes that were made were all so lovely but nothing ever got to the finished point. Not that this made a difference to any of us, we still gathered and partied till our little hearts were content.

My children are having the hardest time with this move, though. Levi was 2 years old and Myles was 8 months old when my parents moved into this house. So for them, it is the only house they really remember. It is also the house where they met their "Aunt Dani" (their Unki's wife) for the first time, held their little cousin Jacob for the first time, learned what it felt like for a dear pet to die, played outside and got dirty filthy, and just perfecting the art of being a kid!


As family and friends came through, the unfinished wall in the entry became a "signature wall." I must say that I wish I could take this wall with me. All the grandchildren have been measured on this wall, there are funny family jokes written on this wall, and each person that wrote on this wall had a part in creating the memories in this house.



So I will end on a good note! The new house will provide as much laughter, love and memories as the old house! Why, you ask? Because we still have family and friends to fill the new house. There are more Thanksgivings, Christmases, Fourth of July celebrations, weddings, babies born (not from me, Danielle-hint-hint), graduations, and, well, I could go on! This is not the end, only a new chapter in our family book.


Good-bye "Grammy's Barnhouse", we will always cherish you and the sweet, precious memories we have with you! 

Monday, October 10, 2011

Sherwood Sanctuary

Yesterday, October 9th, marked the first service for Sherwood Sanctuary. For over a year, Pastor and Sister Mallory and their family, have been doing a bible study with these precious people. Their home has reached capacity and God has opened a door for us to have service right here in Sherwood. Moving forward, one service at a time, adjusting to two services almost back-to-back on Sunday but yet, loving the results. We are so excited at what God is doing! Here are a few pictures I took from my phone, so the quality isn't the greatest :).






 We had 7 brand new teenagers or tweenagers visit that morning! 14 people from the bible study. And then of course a few of us regulars from Newberg there to help. Isn't God awesome??

Saturday, October 8, 2011

A Surprise for My Kiddos!

Just for a few brief hours yesterday, we were blessed with my dear cousin, Stacie's presence! She and her mom were on their way south to my parents and stopped to share hugs and coffee. I did not tell my kids just in case they didn't get the chance to see them. So when Stacie showed up at their school with me to pick them up, the most beautiful scene followed. I am still kicking myself that I didn't grab my phone and record it!
Myles came out first and saw Stacie, came running with eyes opened wide and a huge smile on his face. Then came Elle, with a response that brought tears to all our eyes. She was walking and chatting with a friend. When she saw Stacie, she was a good 30 or 40 feet away, ran with all her might, eyes as wide as half dollars, saying, "Stacie, Stacie, Stacie!", flew into Stacie's arms and literally wrapped herself around Stacie as if to never let go! This display of love was so precious and I wish I could have captured it. Her excitement will forever be burned into my memory. Her love for Stacie and the relationship they have is incredible.
Thinking about Elle and Stacie takes me back a few years to when Stacie and I were younger. Stacie is 15 years younger than I. When she was born, I knew in my heart she was MY little girl. Okay, I did share her with her mom when I had to. But really, she and I had and still have a bond that goes very deep. She went everywhere with me! I often think now how amazing it was for her mom to trust me so much! When Stacie wouldn't let her mom do her hair, off she went to "Nimmy's" (her endearing term for Kimmy) to get her hair done. Anywhere I went, she wanted to go, the "doefy doe" (grocery store), shopping (while purposely getting lost so that her name could be announced over loud speaker), Dairy Queen (where I worked) and my house, where she practically lived. Those are all precious memories to me! I am so thankful for those times because they laid the foundation for our relationship that I cherish to this day!
When I see Stacie with my kids, I see the same love we share and I am so thankful that she is in their lives! We love you Stacie~Lynne Abigayle Wyatt Carlson Marquez! 
Stacie and Elle Belle
 Stacie and Elle (at about 4 weeks old)
 Thanksgiving with my little girl
 My little flower girl
Holding on and never letting go!

Friday, October 7, 2011

T.G.I.F.


 (Yahoo pics)

Yes!! It is Friday!! I love Fridays, not as much as I love Sundays, but I do love them! Fridays stand for FUN!!! Hmmm I think I have an acronym for this:

F = fun
       R = relaxing
            I = ice cream? 
            D = down time
          A = awesome
                     Y = Yabba dabba do! 

Totally corny! But it's all I could think of in five minutes! And I really don't know about the ice cream part but it sounds good. Thanks, Fred Flintstone, for letting me borrow your signature phrase!
So let me ask you, do you love Friday? If so, why?

Wednesday, October 5, 2011

The Power of a Spoken Word

Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. Proverbs 18:21

Imagine my surprise when I got to the third chapter of my speech/communication textbook and this verse was the opening for the chapter. Very interesting! Then, at church last night Bro. Stan Gleason (who Bro. Mallory convinced to come back) used this same verse as part of his message. Okay, Lord, I think I am supposed to be getting something here!
We could read the first part of this verse, stop and have a full blown sermon. What comes out of your mouth can either create or destroy. We have that much power in a spoken word. Spoken words cannot be returned to their origin. In other terms, you can't put words back in your mouth once they leave. This is why it is so important to choose your words carefully. 
However, the second part of the verse is just as important. You will reap the harvest of the words you speak. If you choose good words, you will reap good fruit. On the contrary, negative words will produce bad fruit. 
As this verse was swirling in my head the better part of yesterday and into last night, I realized how essential it is for me to speak out what I have faith for God to do in my life and in the lives of my children. If I want my children to be great in the kingdom, I must speak greatness into them. Telling them they are powerful through Jesus Christ, they are a light to the world, they will do all things through Jesus Christ are just a few of the many things I can speak into them. As they grow and their faith develops, they will produce the good fruit of the seeds that were spoken into them. 
As you go about your day speak words of life to yourself and others. Watch and be amazed at what will grow! 
(Yahoo pics)

Monday, October 3, 2011

Weekend Warrior!

Truly, I did not know I could cram so much into one weekend! Can we say exhausted? Well, no matter, I'll recover (by the end of the week, no doubt). This weekend our church hosted a youth revival with Bro. Stan Gleason as the speaker. It was awesome and impacting. Bro. Stan spoke from his heart and God used him mightily to reach our youth as well as many others. Not only did we have amazing church, but we had *capital* fun! Unfortunately, I missed the Saturday evening service due to about 12 hours of algebra homework :(. However, my husband and the boys went so I lived vicariously through their recap of the service.
Yesterday's service was equally as awesome as the others. There is a family that has been attending for a while and going to the bible study at the Mallory's for quite some time. At the end of the service, I was sitting next to the mother, I reached over and put my arm around her. As we sat there, praying, I felt the presence of God come over her so strong. She prayed for a little while then turned to me and said so sweetly and innocently, "I've never talked like that before!" I wanted to laugh and rejoice all at the same time, but held back on the laughing part. Thank you, Jesus for another life in whom you have come to dwell!

*Reading "Little Women" has an affect on my vocabulary. I find myself wanting to use the terms immensely! Thank you for understanding.